If you’ve been in a coma the past few days, I’m sure you missed the Jackson family fued between MJ’s daughter Paris and siblings Janet, Jermaine, Randy an’em! I guess it has something to do with the siblings wanting their mother Katherine NOT to be the executor or care taker of their brother’s children because she is knocking at death’s door (alittel too dramatic? Sorry…).
Just the other day, there was a big fued (allegedly) that took place at the Jackson compound that involved Janet and Paris fueding over something stupid but that didn’t keep Paris from heading to Twitter to express their personal business!
My thing is, you can’t pick your family! You just can’t! I have family members that I wished my grandmother had put in a basket and left at someone’s doorstep but I’m glad she didnt’. I love my family! My uncles and aunts are exactly the way they’re supposed to be; crazy, loving and honest! I couldn’t ask for another family!
So, note to Paris: STOP TELLING YOUR BUSINESS ABOUT YOUR FAMILY!!! Deal with your family outside of the social media! Although it makes for great entertainment, at the end of the day, you have to stare your family in the face at the Thanksgiving dinner table!
Here are a few tips that I found online that may help you out!
If you’re having trouble dealing with family members, here are three ways to actively bring the love:
1. Rediscover the ties that bind. Maybe annoying aunt Janet used to buy you ice cream from the ice cream truck whenever you visited. Maybe that money-sucking cousin was the one you used to get into trouble with as a kid. Maybe you held the demon-child nephew mere minutes after he came into the world. Remember how you felt then? Use these meaningful memories to remind yourself why you love this person, even when they annoy you to death.
2. Do something nice. Compliment your aunt, buy the cousin a CD of an artist you both liked as kids, spend time goofing off with the nephew. Make a concerted effort to do something you think the other person will enjoy. This works because your energy is focused on positivity, not dread or annoyance. Serving others, even in small ways, makes us feel good. Even if those relatives act just as obnoxious as they normally do, we are able to handle it better because we feel better.
3. Be honest. This one’s hard. Everyone reaches the point where the little annoyances just add up to one big headache. Telling those family members what’s bothering you both gets it off your chest, and serves as a first step to changing your relationship for the better. Maybe Aunt Janet doesn’t realize she asks about your weight every time she sees you. Maybe she just doesn’t know what else to say to you. Explain to that cousin that you just don’t feel comfortable loaning money to anyone, even family. Write a letter, say it in a phone call, or face to face away from the rest of the family. Don’t be confrontational, but make a point of letting them know exactly what’s bothering you.
If All Else Fails…
Try to limit visits to holidays and special occasions, and remind yourself that you don’t have to see Aunt Janet until next Thanksgiving.
