We all have been there when a relationship ends and we are not quite ready to move on yet. We still love or lust and the end of the relationship drags on and on. Here are three ways to finally let that bad thing go.
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Three Ways to End a Bad Relationship ….. And Never Go Back
Balance Out the Bad with the Good
We have a tendency to romanticize old relationships and only remember the good things that we now miss. Make sure when you think of all of the good things that you also remember all of the bad things that led to the break. People rarely change and the odds are pretty good that if the person was a jerk, a cheat or not a good fit two weeks ago; they are the same thing today. Stay honest with yourself about why the love ended.
Fill the Void
You have to fill the time he/she use to occupy in your life with new pursuits. In relationships we develop habits and if you are use to calling in the evening, spending long weekends or spending all your free time with someone it is so easy to simply fall back into those old patterns or miss them deeply. Focus on you in order to break these habits. Now is the time for career, family and hobbies. Fill the void left when the lover left and you will soon find that you no longer miss the “habit” of the old lover.
Stop Communicating!!!!!
This is the one people never ever get! You cannot say you are done with a person if you are still calling, texting, sexing or stalking them. Moving on involves not communicating at all with an ex. Some people you simply cannot just be friends with and you need to end things cold. Now I know some of you are saying “LaDawn we have kids. We can’t not talk.” You are right, but you have to redefine how you now speak to your ex-lover — if it is not about the business of the kids, we don’t talk. If this does not work, you may need to bring in a third party for a few months to act as the go between when it comes to you, the kids and your ex until you get to a place of accepting the break.
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