October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and most abusers aren’t celebrating because they’re abusing. Victims of domestic violence don’t know how to get away from their abuser and most have lost their lives trying to.
It’s a situation that hit close to home when my mother was being abused by a former boyfriend and I saw her fight and take hits that later strengthened her but not without mentally and physically traumatizing her first.
When you’re in a situation like domestic violence, first you need to know the signs because most victims don’t know they’re being abused. Our loved ones don’t know what to do or don’t want to be involved because they feel the victim will just go back. To the loved ones witnessing this, it just seems like they want this type of relationship, so they don’t get involved.
This can’t happen! LOVE DOES NOT HURT PHYSICALLY! You have to leave the abuse if you can! Ask for help! Plan your escape and never go back! It sounds easy but it can be done! It HAS been done!
Here are a few things you can do to plan your getaway:
- Make a plan for how you are going to leave, including where you’re going to go, and how to cover your tracks.
- Make one plan for if you have time to prepare to leave the home.
- Make sure to keep this evidence in a safe place that the abuser will not find – this may mean that you have to keep it in a locked drawer at work or with a trusted family member. If the abuser finds it, you could be in more danger. Such evidence of physical abuse might include:
- Pictures you have of bruises or other injuries. If possible, try to have these pictures dated;
- Torn or bloody clothing;
- Household objects that the abuser damaged or broke during a violent episode;
- Pictures that show your home destroyed or messed up after violence happened;
- Any records you have from doctors or the police that document the abuse
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It’s easier said than done, but you can get away! I’m praying for you!
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