After watching last night’s episode ofLove & Hip Hop ATL, I realized that aside from the ratchetness delivered by some of the characters, there was an actual message that hit close to home for many women (and men) who were or are currently involved in a domestic violent relationship.
Singer K. Michelle had recently been outspoken about her past relationship that involved domestic violence; even starring in a PSA, focusing on the subject. Last night’s episode got deep between her and friend/cast-mate Rasheeda.
If you find yourself in a position that you have to be supportive to a friend who is involved in a domestic violent relationship, there is a right and a wrong way to approach the situation. Take time to look over these tips and hopefully you wont’ be in a position to comfort, but it’s always good to know.
Do not be afraid to let your friend know that you are aware of what she is experiencing. Tell her that you do not wish to interfere but that you are deeply worried about her well-being and safety. Stress to her that if she needs your assistance at any time, or needs a shoulder to cry on, you are there for her with no strings attached.
Exercise some tact and sensitivity. Although the thought of someone abusing your close friend might make you want to scream and yell, it is very important to remember that your friend might still be deeply in love with her significant other, even though she is being abused. Try to avoid statements such as “I hate him” or “I want to beat him up for you.”
Provide some comfort. If your friend decides that he wants to escape the situation he is in, help him organize a strategy. Tell him that he can stay at your house while he gets away from his abuser.SOURCE